WE NEED A BREAK
She is going to have a radical mastectomy (there is evidence that doing this is often useless but my experience is that patients think they have done it all if they do. I am surely not going to mention) and be done with both of them. I think the waiting is the hard part and not knowing what stage, etc. tt
OMG. Based on the process, and the stage, an ordeal begins to save her life like so hard. I have pictures of friends that I took periodically along the way on their journey that make me tear up; those who did everything--watching their deterioration was very hard. This is not negative but realistic.
I gently remind her to take care of herself, get help and build a tribe of people who build you up.